The Working Daughter Bill of Rights

Working Daughter, nowhere it is it written that your life, your dreams, your health, come last. But too many of us often feel this way. No more! So that we are all clear, and can carry on guilt-free (or at least with less guilt), I present to you the Family Caregiver Bill of Rights.

Caregiver Bill of Rights

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7 comments on “The Working Daughter Bill of Rights”

  1. Carmen Munoz Reply

    At times I feel that it’s easier saying something (talk about time management, caring for ourselves, planning out our day, etc., etc., ) than actually doing all of this; especially when your parent (in my case my mother who has been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s) is agitated and the only thing that will relieve the agitation is to be taken outside for a drive or my preference is to place mom in a wheel chair and I go out for a walk. While it’s good exercise and somewhat of a stress relief the timing is not always great. Against my initial will and gut feeling I am contemplating the notion of placing my mother in an ALF. Yes, I have an immense amount of guilt but in reality I am guilty either way, I find that I am tired, restless, emotionally drained and feel like many times trapped and impotent as to how much help I am really offering her. These feelings in my view are horrible especially coming from a daughter! I currently feel that my life has been put on hold, it has a big/hug dot/period. I know this disease will only get worse.

    • admin Reply

      ALzheimer’s is so challenging Carmen – for the patient and the caregiver. You sum up some if the feeling so well – we are helpless against the disease and that is a horrible feeling. Know this:
      There is no rule book. We can only do our best.
      We are people too. Caregivers also have lives that need tending to.
      And, ALFs, SNFs, etc. aren’t always a negative. There’s something to be said for aging at home. AND, there’s something to be said for 24/7 professional care.

      Thanks for reaching out.

    • B Reply

      (((((Hugs))))) I’m new to all of this and I feel this daily and my dad is in a fantastic ALF (I joke that I am going to change my number or join witness protection. Lately it feels like less of a joke and more a necessity for me to not die (I have multiple chronic illnesses and I’m physical disabled, raising a wonderful kiddo who is autistic). Sending you hugs and love. I hope your situation has improved since you posted. You are incredible. ((((❤️))))

  2. Marcella R Charles Reply

    Thank you for sharing, this letter came in time. My father died in 3/2022 from End-stafe Dementia and Mama was doing good. Stressed but handling things until her Major Stroke on 11/27/23. She requires 24/7 professional care. My guilt is I’m a RN & people – siblings, family members, her friends, can’t understand why I won’t bring her home. I have already had 2 back surgeries, ankle surgery & a plate & screws in my left wrist from torn tendons & cartilage in my left hand/wrist when taking care of Daddy. I am an advocate in every other way for my Mom and I pray for my mental health. And that of my siblings as well.

    • admin Reply

      You are the 3rd medical professional I heard from this week. Professional care and family care are different. We all have to decide what works for us.

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